chad is on a business trip this week, and yesterday morning i got this message from him in regards to the bean:
"i actually missed her last night. weird."
you probably think it's weird that he thinks it's weird to miss his kid while away from home. that's because you might not know my hubby very well. the running joke is that he's an emotional robot. but that sounds worse than it actually is. chad's brain works very rationally. he doesn't harp over things he cannot control. he doesn't drive himself crazy with what-ifs. he doesn't hold grudges. he doesn't let emotions get in the way of making sound decisions. (now you understand why being an emotional robot isn't necessarily a bad thing?)
but an extension of all this is that he doesn't typically "waste" time missing people in the traditional sense. he doesn't dwell on a day or two or three spent away from home - although he might get that longing a typical husband gets to see his wife if it were a week or more. his logic is that he will get to see us soon enough, and we have the rest of our lives to spend together. it doesn't bother me. i'm the same way (minus the harping, driving myself crazy and making sound decisions). okay, so i'm really not the same in that respect. but now that i've gotten used to it... he tells me he misses maggie less than 24 hours after he last saw her?! that's just craziness! it appears that our little girl has melted that stone, cold heart of his. haha. but all kidding aside, i'm not actually surprised. because when i say he's emotionless, i'm mostly referring to the self-destructive ones: jealousy, bitterness, neuroticism, skepticism. (however, he's not perfect - he has more than his fair share of ego!).
anyway, what i'm trying to say is that he is a wonderful father. there is no lack of love, integrity, dedication, and awe-inspiring patience. i've heard a lot of moms of infants (and even older kids) complain that their husbands are not involved enough. so i know that maggie and i are incredibly fortunate to have chad as a daddy and husband. he has been there 100% every step of the way. he is just as capable (if not more) as a parent than i am. he may not adhere to the nap schedule to the nano second like i do, but no one else can evoke bigger smiles and louder squeals of joy from maggie. she adores him. and i'm sure she actually misses him, too.
